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5 Things: Goals, Hopes and Dreams for 2014

Happy New Year!!!!!!! I hope you had a good one filled with fun and love!

At this time of year, after the merriment subsides and the twinkly lights start to come down, I always find myself in a deep state of reflection and a kind of longing sets in. I long for things yet to come, and things that I’ve left behind. I think about the people in my life, especially those who are no longer with me. I think about the people who’ve hurt me and who I’ve hurt. I think about the mistakes I’ve made, the things I’ve accomplished and the things I want from life, and how and if I can make those things happen. I think about what might have been and what might still be.

In reality, the turn over to the new year really is just another day, but for a lot of people, it’s an opportunity to start afresh. I’m one of those people. After my round up of 2013, I started to think about what I wanted out of 2014.

5. Find Balance

For the last 9 months I’ve been working pretty hard. I’m not complaining, it’s all self inflicted. But I’m finding that even though I’m putting in the hours, I’m not getting as much done as I should.

I’m really guilty of working and playing at warp speed, jumping from one thing to another, thinking I’m ‘multi-tasking’ when really I’m just being a mess. And I bet I’m not the only one who says “I don’t have time to take a break”. Erm… no that’s crap! If I were to take a break, I’m sure I’d be a lot more efficient.

Balance

And this year, I’ve seen so many bloggers write about their travel burnouts and I to be honest, I don’t ever want that to be me. I may not be travelling full time, but I do have a full time job as well, so a large proportion of my year has been spent behind the computer, working late into the night, rather than getting out and about and actually having adventures. I know that’s normal when you are building something, but I don’t ever want to lose my passion for travel. Ever.

Balance

So my aim this year is to achieve balance between my blog work, my job, my socialising and my me time! Of all of the areas of my life, the ones that have suffered the most is my me time and my time with those closest to me. And I need that. I haven’t spent enough time with the most important people in my life, I have been eating crap, I haven’t exercised or slept enough and I haven’t switched off much at all this year.

So, this year – bring on the quality time, carrot sticks, yoga, siestas and walks in the woods! Zen Goddess coming your way…

4. Become a Better Blogger

With this blog being such a big part of my life now, it would be wrong not to include a blog goal on this list. I want to improve my writing, find ‘my voice’ (it’s getting there), take better pictures, get a better camera, learn to edit photos, figure out my new photo apps, get better at social media – the list goes on and on and on!

I would eventually like to be able to work full time as a travel writer/blogger/traveller/social entrepreneur or something that combines aspects of these! I don’t quite know yet. I suppose there are many different directions that I can take and the next year will be about finding out what works and what I enjoy. I know this is highly ambitious. Especially considering that I only started this whole thing 9 months ago. But I believe you have to dream big.

Dreams

To keep it simple, I want to make Helen in Wonderlust a success by helping other people realise their travel dreams. So you know where I am folks! As I said above, I want to keep improving what I’m doing, but without compromising my passion for travel, or my sanity, so let’s see how this one works out!

3. Take Mark Twain’s Advice

In 2009, I thew off the bowlines, I sailed away from my safe harbour, I caught the trade winds in my (metaphorical) sails.

I explored. I dreamed. I discovered.

Best thing I ever did. So now, as we enter 2014, it’s time for me to take some more wisdom from Mr Twain. This is quite a hard one to explain. Here’s why…

I come across as a pretty confident person, this is what everyone tells me. I’m generally chatty and always up for a laugh or a challenge. But at times, I am unbelievably self-conscious. I worry about what people think of me. It’s sometimes inhibiting.

Have you ever done that thing where you are in the middle of telling a story and you realise a lot of people are listening, get nervous and just kind of forget what you were saying or where you were going with it? I do that ALL THE TIME. Even with good friends.

To give you another example, I took up ballroom dancing when I was thirty. I’ve always loved dancing so when a girl from work asked if I would like to take part in a charity Strictly Come Dancing (that’s Dancing With the Stars for the Americans in the house) competition at work, I jumped at the chance. We got paired up with a pro from the local dance school, my partner was Chris. In 4 weeks we had to learn and perform a routine – the ever so dramatic, Paso Doble.

Chris and I had a bout 8 hours together in total. But I also practiced and practiced and practiced, in my kitchen every night, alone. I wasn’t desperate to win. But as the day approached, I started to get more nervous. I was terrified of screwing up. Of not being ‘perfect’. The fact that it was just a bit of fun for charity was irrelevant to me. We actually ended up winning, but whilst I’d enjoyed all the practicing, I hadn’t enjoyed the actual performance because I was so conscious of all of the eyes on me.

Strictly Come Dancing

I decided to stay on at the school and go to a weekly class, I felt fit and always left feeling really happy. But the big classes weren’t that challenging, so when the school asked me to fill the empty space on their all girls team I did, dancing with a girl called Jo. We had two weeks to learn 4 new routines. We managed it, but when I got out on the floor, with all those people watching, my brain went blank. I told myself it was just because we hadn’t had enough time.

The months went on. We had lessons – I looked forward to them every week. We went to practice evenings with the other dancers. I practiced and practiced. I knew the routines. We did more competitions. But I still couldn’t relax. I knew I was an ok dancer, but everyone else had been doing it for years and I was very aware that I was probably the worst dancer there. I worried about getting it wrong and falling over. I worried so much I made mistakes and ruined it for myself. In reflection, I’m sure people were probably too busy thinking about their own moves to be judging mine. I saw people trip and get things wrong. Did I think anything bad about them? No I didn’t.

Dancing

I always felt like I was letting Jo down. And also letting myself down. I stopped dancing. I let my own insecurities stop me from doing something I loved. Maybe I went to fast. But it was an amazing opportunity. I should have loved those moments when I was up on the dance floor, when I could show off all of the hard work I’d put in. But I didn’t. My fear overtook me.

This is a pattern that I find over and over in my life. Dancing is just one example. I need to get over this.

So this is the year I am going to start to:

Mark Twain

2. Live in the Moment

A great philosopher (and fellow Scouser) once wrote:

John Lennon Quote

I am guilty of being very nostalgic and I am also guilty of worrying about the future and thinking ‘what if’ a lot! I live in my head. I think too much. I get so overwhelmed. Sometimes my mind is so elsewhere, I forget to appreciate what is actually happening around me. Right now.

So this year, I am going to enjoy the moment. This then feeds in to goals 3 and 5 also.

1.  Go on an Adventure (or many)

Starting this blog was my 2013 adventure. Now it’s time to take it to the next level and get back out there!

For a start… Europe. Whilst I’m really good at exploring the UK, I’m guilty of ignoring Europe, preferring to travel further afield. Recently a friend said to me, “Europe is on your doorstep, you should explore it more” and over the last year, reading lots of blogs that focus on Europe, I feel more inspired than ever to go!  So I will. I have plans to go to Belgium, Holland and Germany in February and March and then the Ukraine in May. Let’s see how many more countries I can squeeze in between now and the end of the year!

Advice on things to see and do in Brussels, Amsterdam, Berlin and Kiev is much appreciated!!!!

Adventure

Then, Africa. This year I want to go back. My soul longs for Africa. Bit dramatic, yes. But that is how I feel. Not a day goes by when I don’t think about it. It got under my skin and stayed there. There’s no place on earth where I feel as happy and free as I do in Africa. I love to listen to the sound of wild as I drift off to sleep, I miss the welcoming smiles of the African people, I miss the children, I miss the music and the drum beats, I miss my friends, I miss the big African sun, I miss the the untamed beauty and I miss the person I am when I’m there.

I want to feel this smile again.

Africa

Africa… I’m coming back for you. Until then, I will dream and write about you.

What are your goals, resolutions and dreams for the coming year? Have you started making plans to achieve them?

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20 Comments

  • Reply
    Vicky
    January 5, 2014 at 5:17 pm

    Naughty Helen giving up dancing – would love to see you on Strictly as a celebrity travel blogger! Self-consciousness is such a drag, I know what you mean but yes, get rid. What’s the point? Looking forward to seeing you back in Africa – I also want to do a little Mozambique, Zimbabwe and Zambia tour next year. Hope we both manage to make it there, soon!
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      Helen
      January 5, 2014 at 5:45 pm

      Oh God, Strictly… on tele… no thanks! 🙂 I don’t think my nerves could take it!

      Africa… we will get there! 🙂 I miss it!! Your trip will be fab!

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    Nadia
    January 5, 2014 at 8:57 pm

    I hope you achieve all your goals and then some! I feel the same about you – Africa is where I have had some of my happiest moments.

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      Helen
      January 5, 2014 at 9:22 pm

      Thank you Nadia, you too! Africa is definitely where I have had some of my happiest moments too! 🙂

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    Liz
    January 6, 2014 at 9:45 am

    Love this! 2014 will be your year! Sounds like we have some of the same goals, I love that dancing one, that would definitely be stepping out of my comfort zone for damn sure!

    Also, you really make me want to go to Africa 🙂
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      Helen
      January 6, 2014 at 12:24 pm

      I hope so!!! I need to get off my ass and out doing some cool stuff! 🙂 Yes, we definitely have the same goals which is very cool! Finding balance is something I’ve been trying to accomplish… forever!!! Help!!!!!!!!!

      Dancing was an interesting adventure. I’d love to take it up again, at the same intensity, but without the competitions… hard to find a partner that wants to do that though.

      Ha ha, that’s good, that’s my aim! Get people to go! You would love it!!!

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    Janice Stringer
    January 6, 2014 at 10:32 am

    Living my dream is scaring me silly – I keep waiting for the bottom to drop out and to be back to nothing. Trust and Faith are my most valued companions I think at this time. Keep writing Helen, I very much enjoy what you have to say. 🙂
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      Helen
      January 6, 2014 at 12:26 pm

      What you are doing with your life is great! With your attitude, I believe anything is possible!

      Thank you for the encouragement – amazing as always!! I need that! 🙂

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    Emma @ Emma's Travel Tales
    January 6, 2014 at 12:35 pm

    Great list, Helen. I hope 2014 brings great things for you 😀 x
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      Helen
      January 6, 2014 at 6:13 pm

      Thanks honey, you too! And I hope I get to see you soon!!!!!!! 🙂

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    Murissa
    January 6, 2014 at 10:31 pm

    You look so elegant and regal in those dance shots! You are a true inspiration Helen.
    I am so happy I met you this year and I hope 2014 brings you lots of travel, inspiration and may all your endeavours come true!

    I am in the same boat really. I want to get better at blogging and you are a real inspiration for me.
    Happy new year and congrats on being nominated one of the top travel blogs by Viator!
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      Helen
      January 6, 2014 at 11:23 pm

      Ha ha Murissa, I was terrified underneath. But I do try to do scary stuff sometimes! 🙂

      I’m so happy I met you too! Same back to you as well. Already I see you doing some ‘wanderfull’ things and going to fabulous places!!! You are an inspiration to me!!

      Thank you! I was really shocked but made up to be included in a list with lots of people I admire! Miss you! xx

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    Britney McSweeney
    January 7, 2014 at 3:27 pm

    I love this post because of the story about your dance class. I think we have all been there- sharing and opening up and suddenly realizing that maybe people are judging us. And it is so hard. Its hard because those feelings are common and normal, but truly shouldn’t be. One thing I do to cope with that reaction is remember that assuming someone is judging me – when clearly there is no reason for me to think that – is actually attributing negative intentions to them. That act of toning down your personality, sharing less, being less open because you assume someone else won’t like it or can’t handle it is actually in part because you are judging them – and deciding they are going to think less of you. It may sound a little backwards, but it helps me remember that I’ve worked hard to surround myself with wonderful, loving, open people – so why am I second guessing?

    Can’t wait to see your journey unfold… hopefully it involves getting back into dance in 2014!
    -Britney

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      Helen
      January 7, 2014 at 3:53 pm

      That might be one of the wisest things anyone has said… so true. Great advice, thank you so much. I definitely am judging people, by thinking they will judge me. I miss dancing, and I often think about where I’d be if I’d just sucked it up and kept going… probably not writing my blog… no time. So I guess, everything happens for a reason. Maybe through this, and kind advice from people like you… it will lead me back to it! 🙂 Thank you Britney!

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    Lance
    January 10, 2014 at 3:18 am

    Helen – loved it! Thanks for all your advice on Africa. We’re FINALLY going this year! Can’t tell you how excited we are. Just counting down the months now!
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      Helen
      January 10, 2014 at 9:11 am

      Amazing!!!! Let me know if you need any help! I am going back too. In September! 🙂 When will you be there and where are you going????

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    Colleen Brynn
    January 19, 2014 at 12:23 am

    This is such a beautiful list, and I love how you talked about dancing. I can relate to this as I used to be a competitive dancer growing up. I also adore that photo of you in Africa. You have gorgeous skin, and you are just beaming.
    One of the things i’m working on this year is balance too, so here’s to that! x

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      Helen
      January 19, 2014 at 3:06 pm

      Thank you Colleen! I’m sure you’ll know with the dancing then. It’s great actually dancing, but adding the competitive element is what I struggle with. I much prefer a nice salsa club where everyone is just doing their own thing! And thank you! I think it must be the African air and sun! 🙂

      Balance is what it’s all about. Not rushing =, taking time for ourselves. I hope you get your balance! Keep me updated!

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    Lauren Davenport
    January 24, 2014 at 5:11 pm

    I definitely understands how your soul longs for Africa, I got back in November and have thought about the place every single day! Africa definitely gets under your skin! Xx

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      Helen
      January 26, 2014 at 1:46 pm

      Lauren it doesn’t get any easier either! I got home from my first trip to Africa in 2010, and it’s still on the brain. I have been back since though… but that’s just made it worse!

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